I know it has been a while since my last episode and I am happy to be back on track with recording! I have been super busy and distracted lately but by all good things! As some of you may already know, my husband and I are expecting our first baby this June and time is flying by. Over the past few weeks, there have been some major growing moments for me, and I could not be more grateful for the support I receive on the daily. We also both recently got our real estate licenses so we are starting an entirely new journey together that I could not be more excited about. We have been on cloud nine and are trying to keep it that way by adjusting our lives as needed, pushing ourselves a little bit harder, and staying positive knowing how many great things are ahead that we have to look forward to. With that being said, I wanted to give you a few tips and tricks on what I have been doing to try and stay ahead all while being kind to myself and keeping business and life moving forward.
To start off, I wanted to revisit what I just mentioned about me being distracted and a little behind lately. I realized recently that I am slowly becoming more and more okay with asking for help in my life and my business. I have always taken pride in the fact that I am so independent. For example, I would rather design my own logos and branding rather than pay someone to do it for me even though I know it would save me precious time. In life, I want to move furniture around by myself and I would rather climb on top of the washer to get cleaning supplies instead of just asking my husband to grab it for me. Some things are bigger than others, sure, but I think it all comes down to the same idea: it is not easy for me to ask or accept help.
Being pregnant has 100% changed that for me. I realized I simply cannot and should not do everything on my own. My husband is amazing and just does things without me having to ask which makes it easier for me to accept. When it comes to business, I am realizing that I cannot just keep depending on myself to finish everything on time when I have over 6 different categories under one umbrella of business not to mention the other three businesses that I have major responsibilities as well. Just typing this makes me want to go easier on myself.
It is okay to not be ahead. It is okay to be falling short of where you want to be. What is important is that you do not lose sight of where you want to be. Continue to break down your days into smaller steps to get to that place. I am not kidding when I say that I am LITERALLY just figuring this out. I realized that I will always be building in my business, and I will always have a hurdle or two in life but accepting the fact that I cannot do it all and I will not always be ahead of the game really changes the outlook for me and takes an immense amount of stress off my shoulders.
The next thing I wanted to talk about is differentiating your good days from the bad ones. If the business is slow and it feels like everything else is crashing down around you because of that, then you need to reevaluate what makes you happy outside of work. Do not give it too much control over your life. Being that so many people are working from home now, it is hard to “leave work at the office”. Celebrate when business is good, but when it is not, just remind yourself that low and slow seasons are normal – keep grinding through them – and the cloud will pass before you know it. There is more to life than just checking off your to-do lists, and as I mentioned before, it is OKAY to not get everything done all the time. Give yourself a break, have a mental check-in, schedule it if you must. Good days are great, and bad days are unavoidable so if you are not having a day that doesn’t meet your “great day requirements” accept it and do what you can to turn it around or simply give yourself something to look forward to.
It is important to appreciate yourself a little extra when you feel burnt out. Take that burnout feeling as a sign to pause and use it to reset and find some inner peace instead of trying to push through it all the time. I am so guilty of doing this, and it’s funny because I literally never get anything done when I try to push through burnout. I literally KNOW for a fact that I am going to get absolutely nowhere, yet I would find myself plopping myself in front of my computer and basically forcing myself to try and get something done.
I had to learn how to read myself and call myself out for doing this to stop the habit. Besides, even if I got things done while feeling totally burnt out or overworked, it was truly never my best work. Writing, content creation, recording, designing – whatever it is – I just knew that the more I continued to try and push through burnout, the more disservice I was doing to myself and to my business.
Being able to pause during a busy day and take a step back to find a sense of calm, really helps you to navigate things that might have set you over the edge and it will make it easier for you to deal with people and problems that would normally make you go ballistic. You will gain an entirely new sense of patience and understanding, and it will only help you in the long run.
I’m a sucker for self-care and I am here to tell you that if you aren’t taking care of yourself while you’re building and running a business, checking off your to-do lists and achieving your goals isn’t as fun or remotely satisfying if you’re miserable while you’re doing it. It will show in your work and it will affect how you react to others and their success especially if they’re genuinely happy. There’s always, always time for self-care. I am guilty of complaining that there isn’t enough time in the day for myself sometimes. This is something that becomes a practice. You need to make the time. Schedule it in if you have to – put it in your calendar. Just like you make time for meetings and appointments, this is equally, if not more important than the other things that you’re going to be doing throughout your day.
I hope this episode was helpful. Honestly, if there is one takeaway that you get from this, just please let it be that you’ll take longer breaks if and when you feel overwhelmed. I get less done when I can’t focus and I never ever want to push through work with stress because it shows. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Be inspired by those who have more experience and don’t be afraid to consider their advice and learn from them. In the end, they wouldn’t be giving it to you if they didn’t want to see you succeed. I give advice and tips in hopes to remove hurdles that I had to jump through to make it easier for you to learn and to make your journey less of a struggle. If you can avoid doing things that posed as minor or major hurdles that other people have gone through, why wouldn’t you take that? Try to be easier and kinder to yourself and don’t forget to pencil in your self-care, ask for help, and stay inspired by those around you. I will talk to you guys soon, I have some other podcasts coming up probably next week or so but we will see how well I do with staying on track 😉
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